Big Ben Met His Wife Through a Fan, Then Had 3 ‘Killer B’ Children
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Pittsburgh Steelers quarterback Ben Roethlisberger is without a doubt one of the most successful passers of all time. He ranks inside the top 10 all-time in passing yards and touchdowns and has won two Super Bowls while wearing the black and yellow.

Big Ben has had a lot of talent around him since the Steelers selected him in the first round of the 2004 NFL Draft out of Miami (Ohio) University. Jerome Bettis, Hines Ward, Antonio Brown and Le’Veon Bell aided the 6-foot-5 quarterback throughout the years. It helps to have defenses led by guys like Troy Polamalu and James Harrison, too.

The 38-year-old Roethlisberger underwent elbow surgery and is ready to play again at Heinz Field. Under head coach Mike Tomlin, he, James Conner, JuJu Smith-Schuster and Minkah Fitzpatrick hope to return to the playoffs for the first time since 2017.

He’s had a full support system during his injury that includes his wife, who he strangely met through a Steelers fan.

Who Is Ben Roethlisberger’s Wife Ashley Harlan?

Ashley Harlan isn’t in the public eye much, but she might as well be royalty in Pennsylvania.

Harlan is from New Castle, Pennsylvania. She played softball, basketball and volleyball at Laurel High School. According to the Pittsburgh Post-Gazette, she graduated from St. Francis University, a private school in Loretto, Pennsylvania, in 2008 with a Bachelor’s degree in health science and later a Master’s of physicians assistant. She then worked in the cardiac surgery department of a Pittsburgh hospital.

Harlan comes from a quiet, Christian family and has two brothers. She grew up an athlete, so it surprised no one when she ended up with Roethlisberger.

“Ashley has a tomboy side when it comes to sports, and then she can dress up and she is gorgeous. Ashley can light up a room when she walks into one,” Sally Hiers, a former member of Harlan’s hometown church, told the Pittsburgh Tribune-Review.

Roethlisberger and his wife are also featured on the 2020 docuseries “Bigger Than Ben,” which even talks about last year’s offseason.

How Did They Meet?

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Big Ben and Harlan’s story is a pretty unique one. The quarterback was in the midst of training camp in 2005 at Saint Vincent College when a fan introduced himself. They got to talking, Roethlisberger met the fan’s sister and asked her out.

Over the next five or so years, Harlan and Roethlisberger saw each other periodically.

“We were kind of on and off for five years — almost six years now — so I’ve known her for a while. It’s not like a random new person. We dated a while ago; we have been friends ever since,” Roethlisberger told the Post-Gazette in 2011.

Roethlisberger’s personal life hit a snag when he was accused of sexual assault in two straight offseasons in 2009 and 2010. He was never convicted of anything, but NFL commissioner Roger Goodell suspended the quarterback for four games in 2010.

The NFL player’s life began to turn around in 2011, however, when he married Harlan. He asked Harlan’s father’s permission to take his daughter’s hand in marriage and even spoke with her brothers before buying a ring.

“If Ben’s life was still in disarray, [her parents] Dave and Jeannie Harlan would not have given permission,” Rev. Jerry McCauley of Harlarn’s hometown church told the Tribune-Review. “He has made quite a turnaround.”

How Many Kids Do They Have?

Big Ben, wide receiver Antonio Brown and running back Le’Veon Bell were deemed the “Killer B’s” in the Steel City when they played together, and Roethlisberger is a father to his own killer B’s. They have three children — two sons and a daughter.

Ben and Ashley Roethlisberger welcomed their first son, Benjamin Jr., in 2012. Harlan gave birth to daughter Baylee two years later. Then in 2016, Bodie Roethlisberger was born.

Dad and the kids gave birthday shoutout in July 2019 on social media and his website, As you can tell, the kiddos are adorable.

Where Do They Live?

The Roethlisberger family of five lives in a 22,464-square-foot mansion in Sewickley Heights, Pennsylvania, where athletes like Pittsburgh Penguins’ Sidney Crosby and former Penguin Mario Lemieux also reside.

According to, Big Ben purchased the land for about $2 million in 2015. The two-story, eight-bedroom, seven-bathroom home also features a pool and was completed in 2018.

Big Ben, who missed most of last season with an elbow injury, may not have many seasons left in the tank, but he’ll be trending and in the national spotlight as long as he’s the Steelers quarterback. His 2020 season starts on Monday Night Football against the New York Giants on ESPN as Pittsburgh looks to win the AFC North over the Baltimore Ravens, Cincinnati Bengals and Cleveland Browns.

When the time finally comes to retire and leave the sideline for good, however, he has a pretty good setup at home.

This post was originally published on May 27, 2020.

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Patrick has spent parts of the last four years covering University of Florida athletics and spent two seasons with Major League Baseball. He's a baseball junkie who spends his days defending Derek Jeter and the Miami Marlins. A recent Gator grad, Patrick currently resides in Gainesville, Florida.
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